Bamwe mu bakunzi bacu bamaze igihe batwandikira badusaba kubashakira uburyo bwiza umugabo yatera akabariro agashimisha Umugore we, ndetse ibi bikaba byaba intandaro nziza yo kubaka urugo rukomeye ruzira gucana inyuma.

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Kubera ubu busabe, nk’ Umuryango twabahitiyemo uburyo 5 bwiza wayikoramo, ariko niba uziko uri munsi y’imyaka 18 ubu buryo ntabwo bukureba.

Urebye ahanini ingo zo muri ibi bihe zisigaye zisenywa nuko umugore yaciye inyuma umugabo we ngo agiye gushaka umukorera imibonano mpuzabitsina akishima ,ari nayo mpamvu nabahitiyemo kubazanira bumwe mu buryo ushobora gukoresha mu gihe cyo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina maze umugore wawe akishima, mbese akanyurwa.

Kuko birazwi neza ko ingo zi iki gihe zirara zishya bitewe nuko umugabo atazi gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina maze umugore akaryoherwa, ubwo nawe akazajya ahitamo kujya kwishakira abapfubuzi, bityo ubu buryo ngiye kubabwira ntabwo busaba ngo ufite ingufu, oya ubu ni uburyo buri mugabo wese yakoresha uko yaba angana kose maze umugore akishima.

Uburyo bwa mbere ni igihe umugore aryamye hasi agaramye maze umugabo nawe akamupfukama hagati y’amaguru nuko umugore agafata amaguru ye akayashyira ku matako y’umugabo, umugore yarangiza akaza noneho akinjiramo neza, ubu buryo buzatuma umugore aryoherwa ndetse n’umugabo yumve ko afite umugore neza nawe bimutere ku ryoherwa.

Ndetse bizongera bifashe n’igitsina cy’umugabo kwinjira neza cyose mu gitsina cy’umugore ku buryo kizaba kisanzuye mu gukora ibyo umugabo ashaka mu gitsina cy’umugore.

Uburyo bwa kabiri bwo busaba ko umugore aryama ku buriri yubitse inda ariko akibuka kuzamura ikibuno ho gatoya ndetse anatandaraze ho gato, ubwo umugabo nawe icyo azakora azapfukama maze yinjize igitsina cye mu cy’umugore bitamugoye.

Ubu buryo buzatuma umugore aryoherwa ndetse atanavunika kuko imibiri iba yegeranye cyane,ubu buryo kandi waba ufite n’igitsina gito bugeregeza gutuma ushimisha umugore wawe.

Uburyo bwa gatatu bwo noneho busaba ko umugore yunama ku gitanda, ubwo n’ukuvuga ngo agashinga amavi ku gitanda inkokora akaba arizo afatisha hasi umutwe nawo akawushyira hasi maze ikibuno kikajya inyuma, icyo gihe n’igitsina cy’umugore kizaba cyaje inyuma.

Ubwo umugabo nawe icyo azakora nta kindi ni uguturuka inyuma maze agasa nusutarara maze akinjizamo igitsina cye mu cy’umugore, ubu buryo buzafasha umugabo kwinjiza igitsina cye mu cy’umugore uko abyifuza bimufashe no kuruhura umutwe we yewe n’umugore azaryoherwa byiza kuko uzaba uri gukora mu mpande zose z’igitsina.

Uburyo bwa kane bwo nubwo budakundwa gukorwa n’abantu ariko ni bwiza, ubu buryo bwo busaba ko umugore n’umugabo bahagarara maze umugore akazamura akaguru ke akagashira ku kibuno cy’umugabo ubwo umugabo nawe agahita agafata maze akagatanyura.

Umugabo nawe icyo agoma gukora nta kindi ni uguhita yinjira hagati y’abibero by’umugore ubundi agahita ashyira igitsina cye aho cyabugenewe, ubu buryo buzabafasha mwembi gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina murebana amaso ku maso maze mubone n’uburyo musangira uburyohe yewe n’umugabo bizamufasha ku kwinjira mu mugore neza umubiri ku mubiri.

Uburyo bwa gatanu bwo ni bwiza cyane, busaba ko umugabo aryama agaramye maze umugore nawe akaza akamupfukama hejuru maze akinjiza igitsina cy’umugabo mu cye maze bagatangira akazi.

Umugabo agomba kuzajya akaresha igice cye cyo hasi ndetse n’umugore azamuka buri uko umugabo amuzamuye nawe akiyoroshya, ndetse byagera na hagati umugabo akarekera noneho ibintu byose umugore akaba ariwe ubyikorera, ndetse umugore akazajya anyuzamo akanyonga ikibuno kugira ngo igitsina cy’umugabo gikore mu mpande zose z’igitsina cy’umugore.