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Ni gute wahangana n’ubwoba bwo kujya murukundo?

Ubuzima   Yanditswe na: ISHIMWE JANE 28 March 2022

Rimwe na rimwe abantu benshi bagira ubwoba bwo kujya murukundo bitewe n’impamvu zitandukanye akenshi usanga babiterwa n’inkovu z’urukundobigatuma batinya kujya murukundo bitewe no gutinya kubabazwa ariko hari uburyo cyangwa inama zagufasha gutsinda ubwo bwoba.


1. Sobanukirwa ikigutera kugira ubwo bwoba

Tekereza impamvu utinya gukundana cyangwa gukundwa. Intambwe yambere mugukemura ibibazo byawe hamwe no gukunda cyangwa gukundwa nukumenya ubwoba bukubuza. Hariho ubwoko bwinshi bwubwoba bushobora gutuma umuntu atinya gukunda umuntu cyangwa gukundwa.

2. Tekereza kumibanire yawe yahashize

Inzira imwe ushobora gutangira kumva ubwoba bwawe kubyerekeye gukunda cyangwa gukundwa ni ugutekereza kumibanire yawe ya kera. Reba ibibazo byavutse mu mibanire nuburyo wagize uruhare muri ibyo bibazo bizagufasha kumenya uko ukwiye kwitwara kandi ntibikubuze gusubira murukundo.

3. Tekereza kubuzima bwawe kuva mubwana bwawe

Rimwe na rimwe, ubuzima dukuriramo kuva mu bwana burashobora kugira uruhare mubushobozi bwacu bwo gukunda no gukundwa. Niba waranyuze mubuzima bugoye nkumwana, ushobora kwitwaza ibyiyumvo mubucuti bwawe bukuze. Reba ibintu byakubayeho cyangwa hafi yawe ukiri umwana nuburyo bishobora kukugiraho ingaruka ukuze.

4. Reba bimwe mubikunze gutera umuntu gukunda cyangwa gukundwa

Abantu benshi bafite ubwoba mugihe cyo gukunda no gukundwa. Muri ubwo bwoba harimo ubwoba bwo gukomeretsa, gutinya kubabaza umuntu, no gutinya kwiyemeza. Reba ubwo bwoko butandukanye bwubwoba hanyuma ugerageze kumenya niba ibyiyumvo byawe bihuye nimwe muribi byiciro bizagufasha gusobanukirwa uburyo wakoresha kugirango ubashe kurwanya ubwo bwoba.

5. Menya neza niba ubona ko ukwiye gukundwa

Abantu bamwe bahagarika gukunda no gukundwa kuko bizera ko badakundwa cyangwa badakwiriye gukundwa. Iyi myizerere ishobora kuba igisubizo cyo kwita ku bwana, kwangwa, cyangwa ibindi byababayeho byaguteye kumva udakwiriye gukundwa. Reba niba wumva udakwiriye gukundwa.

6. Kurwanya ibitekerezo byawe bibi

Usibye umubano ushize nubunararibonye bwubwana, gutekereza nabi birashobora kukubuza gukunda cyangwa gukundwa. Abantu bamwe batekereza nabi kuri bo cyangwa abo bakundana bitera umubano mubi. Ntukemere ko igitekerezo kibi kinyura mumitekerereze yawe utabanje kugisubiramo no kugisobanukirwa. Kubikora bizagufasha guhindura imitekerereze yawe no guhagarika gushimangira ubwoba bwawe bwo gukunda cyangwa gukundwa. Igihe gikurikira ufite igitekerezo kibi, uhindure igitekerezo cyiza.

7. Haranira guteza imbere ibitekerezo by’urukundo

Urashobora kandi kungukirwa no kuvuga neza kubyerekeye urukundo. Gerageza ukoreshe ibyemezo bya buri munsi kugirango utezimbere ibyiyumvo byiza byurukundo. Ibyiza bya buri munsi birashobora kugufasha guhangana namarangamutima mabi ashobora kuba mubwoba bwurukundo. Fata akanya gato buri munsi kugirango wirebere mu ndorerwamo hanyuma uvuge ikintu cyiza kubyerekeye urukundo. Urashobora kuvuga ikintu wemera ku rukundo cyangwa ikindi kintu wifuza kwizera ku rukundo. Ingero zimwe mubintu ushobora kwibwira ubwawe ushobora kwibwira ko ukwiriye urukundo,ikizere cyo kumva ko hari igihe uzagira umubano wuzuye, kwiyumvisha ko urukundo ari ikintu kiza nibindi.

8. Emera kuba umunyantege nke

Intege nke zisobanurwa nkibyago no gushidikanya bizanwa no kwerekana amarangamutima . Abantu batinya gukunda no gukundwa akenshi bafite kwirwanaho mubucuti. Niba ushaka gutsinda ubwoba bwawe bwo gukunda no gukundwa, uzakenera kugabanya kwirwanaho no kwemerera kwibasirwa numukunzi wawe. Ibi birashobora kumvikana biteye ubwoba, ariko ni intambwe yingenzi yo kurushaho koroherwa nurukundo. Uburyo rusange bwo kwirinda kumva ko ufite intege nke harimo gusubira mu isi yigitekerezo cyangwa kwiyerekana muburyo butari bwiza.

9. Ganiriza inshuti wizeye kubijyanye n’ubwoba bwawe

Kuganira numuntu kubyerekeye ubwoba bwawe numutima wawe birashobora kugufasha guhangana nubwoba bwawe bwo gukunda no gukundwa. Niba uri mubucuti tekereza gusangira ibyiyumvo numukunzi wawe. Kubwira umukunzi wawe uko ubyumva birashobora gufungura amahirwe yo kugirana ubucuti bukomeye mumibanire yawe. Menya neza ko ufite iki kiganiro na mugenzi wawe mugihe mwembi mutuje, atari nyuma cyangwa mugihe cyo gutongana.

10. Niba ubona ntagihinduka gerageza kuvugana n’umujyanama ubizobereyemo agufashe

Rimwe na rimwe, ubwoba bujyanye no gukunda no kuba murukundo birakabije kuburyo ukeneye ubufasha bwumujyanama. Niba ibibazo byawe bikomeje nubwo ugerageza gukora ibintu neza, tekereza kuvugana numujyanama kuri ibyo bibazo. Umujyanama arashobora kugufasha kugera kumuzi wibibazo no kubikemura kugirango ubashe kugirana umubano mwiza mugihe kizaza.

Author : ISHIMWE JANE

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