Hari igihe umuntu agera aho yumva abantu bamuhindukiranye. Ugasanga ibyo ukora byose birimo kuvugwaho, bamwe bakaguca intege, abandi bakagukwiza amagambo cyangwa bakakwereka ko batakwishimiye. Iyo bigeze aho, ikibazo abantu benshi bihutira kwibaza ni iki: “Kuki banyanga?”

Ariko hari ikindi kibazo kirushaho kugira akamaro ukwiriye kubanza kwibaza:

“Ese ndi kuguma ndi njye, cyangwa natangiye kubaho nshaka gushimisha abantu bose?”

Icyo ni ikibazo gikomeye kuko abantu benshi batakaza amahoro yabo bagerageza kwemerwa n’umuntu wese. Nyamara ukuri ni uku: uko urushaho gutera imbere, niko utazabura abantu batabikozwa.

Hari abantu bazakunda kubona ucecetse aho kuvuga cyane. Abandi bazakwanga kubera ko ufite icyerekezo bo batumva. Hari n’abazagirira ishyari ibyo wagezeho kandi batigeze babona urugendo wanyuzemo kugira ngo ubigereho.

Ishyari ntabwo buri gihe rituruka ku rwango

Rimwe na rimwe, umuntu akwereka ubukonje cyangwa akaguca intege atari uko wamugiriye nabi. Bishobora kuba biterwa n’uko ibyo ukora bibamurikira ibyo batigeze bakora cyangwa inzozi batinye gukurikirana.

Iyo umuntu abonye undi afite imbaraga zo kugerageza, kwihangana no gukomeza imbere, bishobora kumubangamira mu mutima atabizi. Ni yo mpamvu rimwe na rimwe abantu banenga cyane abo bumva bafite icyo bagezeho.

Ariko ibyo ntibivuze ko ugomba kubaho uhora wisobanura.

Ntukemere ko ibitekerezo by’abantu bihindura agaciro kawe

Hari abantu bazagushima uyu munsi, ejo bakunenge. Niba agaciro kawe gashingira ku byo abantu bavuga, uzahora uhindagurika nk’umuyaga.

Menya ibi:

Ntibishoboka gushimisha abantu bose.
Kuba abantu batakwemera si ikimenyetso ko uri umuntu mubi.
Hari igihe gutsinda kwawe kubabaza abantu batigeze batinyuka gutangira.

Iyo ubizi, utangira kubaho ufite umutuzo.

Icyo ukwiriye gukora aho guhangayikira abakwanga

1. Komeza gukora ibyo wemera

Niba ibyo ukora bifite intego nziza, ntugahagarare kubera amagambo y’abantu.

2. Irinde guhora wisobanura

Abantu bamwe baba baramaze gufata umwanzuro kuri wewe mbere yo kukumva.

3. Reba niba hari ibyo wakosora

Ntabwo buri kunengwa aba ari urwango. Hari igihe umuntu ashobora kukubwiza ukuri gukomeye ariko kukugirira umumaro.

4. Menya gutandukanya urwango n’urusaku

Hari amagambo abantu bavuga kubera amarangamutima yabo bwite, atavuga uwo uri we.

Umusozo

Niba abantu bakwanga cyangwa bakakugirira ishyari, ntukihutire kwiyanga cyangwa guhindura uwo uri we kugira ngo wishimirwe n’umuntu wese.

Ahubwo ibaze uti:

“Ese ndi kubaho mu kuri kwanjye, cyangwa ndi gutakaza njye kubera gutinya ibyo abantu bavuga?”

Iyo usubije icyo kibazo mu kuri, usanga amahoro yawe atagomba guterwa n’uko abantu bakwishimira cyangwa batakwishimira.