Mu buzima bw’abashakanye cyangwa abakundana, ikibazo abantu benshi bibaza ni iki: “Ese umugabo akwiye kumara iminota ingahe mu gikorwa cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina kugira ngo umugore anyurwe?” Hari abatekereza ko igihe kinini cyane ari cyo cyonyine gitanga ibyishimo, nyamara si ko buri gihe bimeze.

Ese igihe ni cyo cy’ingenzi kurusha ibindi?

Abahanga mu buzima bw’imyororokere bavuga ko igihe ubwacyo atari cyo cyonyine kigena niba umugore yanyuzwe cyangwa atanyuzwe. Icy’ingenzi kurushaho ni:

uburyo bwo kwitwararika uwo mukundana,
ibiganiro hagati y’abakundana,
gukoranaho no kwitegura mbere y’imibonano,
no kumenya ibyo buri umwe akunda.

Ariko kandi, ubushakashatsi bwinshi bwerekana ko imibonano nyirizina (penetration) imara hagati y’iminota 5 kugeza kuri 15 iba ihagije ku bagore benshi.

Iminota mike cyane ishobora guteza ikibazo

Iyo umugabo arangiza mu gihe kiri munsi y’iminota 1 cyangwa 2 buri gihe, bishobora gutuma umugore atabona umwanya uhagije wo kugera ku byishimo bye. Ibi bishobora kuba ikibazo cyo kurangiza vuba (premature ejaculation), kandi gishobora gukemurwa binyuze mu:

imyitozo yo kugenzura amarangamutima,
kugabanya stress,
kuganira n’umufasha,
cyangwa kugisha inama umuganga igihe bikabije.
Iminota myinshi cyane na yo si garanti y’ibyishimo

Hari abagabo batekereza ko kumara iminota 30 cyangwa isaha yose ari byo bishimisha umugore. Nyamara, ku bagore bamwe, imibonano iramba cyane ishobora gutera:

kubabara,
kunanirwa,
cyangwa gutakaza ubushake.

Icy’ingenzi si “record” y’igihe, ahubwo ni uko mwese munyurwa kandi mukumva munezerewe.

Ibintu bishimisha umugore kurusha kubara iminota

Abagore benshi bavuga ko bishimishwa cyane n’ibi bikurikira:

Kwitabwaho mbere y’imibonano.
Gukundwa no kubwirwa amagambo meza.
Gukoranaho no gusomana.
Kumva batekanye kandi bubashywe.
Umugabo ubatega amatwi ku byo bakunda.

Ibi bishobora gutuma n’imibonano itamaze iminota myinshi iba myiza kandi ishimishije.

Umwanzuro

Nta mubare w’iminota umwe ukwiye kuri buri wese. Ariko muri rusange, iminota 5 kugeza kuri 15 y’imibonano nyirizina iba ihagije ku bashakanye benshi. Icy’ingenzi ni urukundo, kuganira, no kumenya icyo umufasha wawe akunda kurusha guhatanira igihe kinini.

Iyo abakundana bumvikana kandi bakitaho, ibyishimo birushaho kwiyongera kuruta kubara iminota gusa.